Have you ever stopped to listen to your self-talk and wondered, “When did I start believing all of this about myself?”
These beliefs can feel so real, so absolute, but they’re not facts—they’re meanings we have made about ourselves and the world around us.
Often, they aren’t true, yet they still shape how we feel and act every single day.
Take Elphaba’s story from the musical Wicked, for example. She believes it’s her fault her sister is in a wheelchair. This belief comes from her mother drinking a potion during pregnancy to stop her next baby from being born green, like Elphaba. The potion caused her sister’s legs to weaken. Even though this was completely outside of Elphaba’s control, she carries the guilt. Her belief—though untrue—shapes how she feels about herself and her place in the world.
We all carry beliefs like this without realising it. They often come from things we heard as children—words from parents, teachers, or other important people in our lives. Messages like:
“You’ll never amount to much.”
“Girls should smile and look pretty.”
“Don’t get too big for your boots.”
Sometimes, beliefs form as we try to make sense of what happens to us. For example, imagine reading out loud in class, stumbling over a word, and hearing some children laugh. You might feel embarrassed and think, It’s not safe to speak in front of people. As a child, this belief may have helped you avoid similar situations to protect yourself. But as an adult, you can see logically that it is safe. Even so, your unconscious mind still holds onto that belief, which is why you might feel nervous or sabotage yourself in similar situations today.
Even if we’re not aware of these beliefs, they influence how we behave and how we feel about ourselves. And one belief many women carry is this: I am not enough.
The Weight of the belief “I Am Not Enough”
As women, we’re often so hard on ourselves. We feel like we should be better, do more, or be perfect in every area of life. We focus so much on our flaws that we struggle to see or admit our strengths.
This constant self-criticism eats away at our confidence. Over time, it changes how we show up in the world. Instead of stepping into opportunities, we second-guess ourselves. Instead of standing tall, we shrink back. The belief I am not enough becomes a lens through which we see everything, including ourselves.
But here’s the truth: You are more than enough.
The good news is that beliefs like this aren’t set in stone. They can change. And when they do, so does how we feel, act, and show up in life.
Changing Your Beliefs with EFT
This is where Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also called tapping, can really help. EFT is a simple but powerful tool that helps you uncover and release the beliefs holding you back. It creates space for new, empowering beliefs to take root.
With EFT, we gently explore where these beliefs came from and let go of the emotional weight they carry. For example, if I am not enough is a belief you’ve been holding onto, EFT can help you reconnect with your worth, see your strengths, and feel confident being yourself.
This process isn’t about ignoring your feelings or pretending everything is fine. It’s about showing yourself compassion, letting go of old stories that no longer serve you, and stepping into a version of yourself that feels freeing, confident, and complete.
You Deserve to Feel Confident and Happy
Imagine waking up each morning truly believing you are enough. How would your life change? What would you embrace? How would you show up differently?
This isn’t just a nice idea—it’s possible. EFT can help you break free from beliefs that hold you back so you can create a life that feels joyful and empowering.
You deserve confidence. You deserve happiness. You deserve an inner voice that lifts you up, not one that holds you back.
Are you ready to take the first step?
If you feel ready to clear your limiting beliefs click the link below to arrange a chat with me.
Lets do this together!
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